What Is The "New Fashion" For Love Relationships In The Future?

What Is The New Fashion For Love Relationships In The Future?
by Aiping Wang

 

First, Review Of The Old Fashion

In the past, a man and a woman would get married very young with someone in the same village, have sex and create a family. The man would do laborious work out in the fields and more recently in the factory and manufacturing plants. The woman would stay at home, take care of the children, cook, wash dishes, wash clothes, and wait for the man to come home with his wages.

This was the old fashion of relationships: people had sex, gave birth to babies, the man made money, provided food and shelter, established a family, and they were husband and wife. This relationship is in some ways like slavery: you're a slave to your work, a slave to your husband, and a slave to the children - just like rearing chickens.

Creating New Love Relationships

With the development of capitalism, the fashion of new love relationships has changed. Now it's very important to get a good love relationship. Now both men and women are selective about their partners. Now it's important what the person's like: men should be rich, powerful and attractive; women should be beautiful, come from a good family and they can also be rich. This is why many models, actors and rich business people are all seen as desirable partners; they're famous, and they have good image.

In the world today, finding a partner and having a good relationship is the one of the biggest problems: people initially don't care if the man or the woman is healthy and happy or if they are aggressive and emotional. People think that having good looks, lots of money, lots of property, lots of ‘image' – that's a good partner; that will make a good relationship.

But more and more people are getting divorced. It doesn't matter how much money they have: the more rich, the more property, the more image – the more divorce and the more fighting. And many people whose relationship doesn't end in divorce just stick it out and remain unhappy and dissatisfied - unhealthy. It is very rare that couples are really satisfied with each other, and with their relationship. Even if a man and woman are married for 40, 50 or 60 years, it doesn't mean that they are happy or that their relationship is healthy.

In relationships now we often talk about being ‘partners': this means that you have the same work and the same goals. In relationship you are partners in producing a family, in creating a family life. When you have the same goal, you are doing the same things, you have the same requirements and you have the same understanding of life.

But what happens in the future when you are finished with the partnership? When there are no more children to look after? When you are retired? Your relationship with your husband or wife must change: you must become companions. What can you do? Can you survive with this person? Do you look for new love relationships or can you still enjoy life together?… Or is it too late?

So the fashion in relationships follows the development of society. As society develops, our relationship lifestyle changes.

Future Selectivity Of Partners

In the future, material life, money and image won't be so important. What will be important will be the development of the soul, of the spirit. The new expectation of life will be to be naturally happy, healthy and peaceful; to have high awareness and to feel free.

In the future, you will be looking for a new love relationship that supports you in the new society - new lifestyle. You will have to look for a new love relationship which can provide you with soul development and spirit development in order to be successful in the future. A person with high awareness, high spirit, and who is happy and healthy will automatically support you and support your life. You will have to find a person with a happy character who is open-minded, very flexible, very healthy, and with lots of life knowledge - not depressed, not aggressive, not emotional.

If your partner is angry all the time, it doesn't matter how much money they have or how much they serve you; or if they help you very much but they're depressed all the time; or they give you their full heart, yet they have a cancerous tumor and are going to die soon; or perhaps they have lots of money, but they fight with you every day. Or they're narrow-minded, very serious and focus all the time, very emotional, very ambitious, but they simply don't do much of anything for a better life.

Or if your partner is good one day and terrible the next... high spirit one day and depressed the next day, then confused, then angry, then a bit better… you can't really enjoy this type of person and they can't support you or your life.

Or if your partner doesn't like change; they just want everything to be the same as it was when they were a child or like their parents lifestyle was. They don't like anything new...

If you live with this kind of person every day it makes you depressed, weak and sick.

Do you like a person who makes you laugh every day? A person who makes your spirit high all the time so you never feel bored or depressed? A person who makes you feel lively and you have creative friction with.


Soul Enjoyment In New Love Relationships

The fashion in new love relationships is to look for soul enjoyment, to enjoy the relationship, not to suffer together. You must enjoy together, have fun, be happy together and always doing new things. The fashion in new love relationships is enjoying life rather than suffering every day, fighting with life, arguing, focusing on making money, paying bills, cooking, cleaning – those are symptoms of an old fashioned lifestyle.

Everybody is looking for somebody who is happy, because a happy person has the lifestyle of accepting everything. When you're happy, you don't hate anything, you are not sick, not angry, aggressive, or emotional. Happiness is the key. A happy person is always looking forward to the future and enjoying what is happening now.

If your aim in life is to have money, you must find a partner who can support you in this aim. If your aim in life is to have a great image, you must find a partner to support your image. But are these requirements enough for you if you are not happy?

Love relationships in the new society demand a partner to provide you with positive friction; a partner to support your spirit, your energy, and your life development. This is the best partner, because a gem cannot be polished without friction! If your goal is clear – and you want a happy healthy relationship – this goal will manifest. If you look for a happy person, success will come later automatically, and money will come automatically.

In the new love relationship, your goal and your awareness must be clear and then you will find what you are looking for. If you are not clear, that means that you are confused and you can't find what you really want. Even if the right person is in front of you – you can't recognize that person. So if you want a good relationship in the future, you will need to be very aware of what you want, you will want to be very aware of what is most important in life and you have to be aware of how society is developing. So being selective for the right qualities in a partner becomes a great shortcut for a successful life in the future.